Blogging and Why I’m So Frustrated

Blogging is a second job, no question. I put in nearly full-time hours, between weeknights and weekends. The difference between this second job and your typical second job, is that I really love doing it.

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Here’s the problem, I just cannot seem to boost my traffic. I’ve read list upon list upon list, followed the advice, tried different techniques and yet my Unique Views / Page Views stay where they are. I know what you’re thinking, I shouldn’t be blogging purely for the visitors, and truthfully, I’m not. I blog primarily because I love doing it. I love sitting down to a clean page, and letting my thoughts run. Some of those random thoughts lead to full posts, while others turn into topics for future posts, but in either case, I love what I do.

…but I want to grow!

However, I’d be lying if I said I wouldn’t love for this lil ole blog to turn into something major, something I was able to turn into a living, maybe be a Work At Home Mom. I know you need to be dedicated, that you need to be willing to put in the time to build your following, both of which I am willing to do, but I’m stuck.

I can’t say I’ve tried EVERYTHING that would be a lie, but I’ve tried a lot and nothing is helping me grow, not even slightly. I’ll read a tip, like scheduling a tweet of your post to go live in the morning and the evening will bring followers, or that ensuring you have pinnable pictures in your posts will help it become viral on Pinterest. Both of these are great tips, but I’m being very real, none of it has helped me.

Then I begin wondering if it’s my writing, or possibly the topic I am covering. While it could be either, I’ve read blogs with poor grammar and spelling who are thriving, and there are many mommy blogs (the niche I currently fall into) whose subject matter is similar to mine (writing about their kids, what worked for them, what didn’t, etc). I guess it could be that the mommy blogger market is pretty saturated, and that there isn’t room for one more blogger in it. But I have a hard time believing that considering how many moms there are in the world and how tough being a parent can be on any given day, and how different every parent’s experience is.

…On Writing

I’ll write a post, and think it is THE post. The post that will bring me tons and tons of visitors. Visitors that will stick around, subscribe to me on Bloglovin’, or any other one of my other social media channels, and become real fans… And what happens? It falls flat, gets a few views but nothing impressive, and I continue to get frustrated.

I love writing, but I love writing for an audience. I like knowing that what I’m saying could have an impact on someone’s life. There are times when I write for me, but that’s my private journal. What I write here, I want to be seen.

I know this seems like a bit of a whine fest, and I guess in a small way it is, but what I’m hoping is that someone out there may have gone through something similar with their blog, but come through it in a better place. Someone who can share their story, and restore my hope and excitement in hitting “Publish” after every post, and that eventually there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Thank you for listening to me!

Your turn!

I would truly appreciate your comments on this subject. I want to hear what others have experienced, and any tips or advice that could help lead me back to the “right” direction.

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93 Responses to Blogging and Why I’m So Frustrated

  1. Rachel G says:

    I know, it can be frustrating! In my experience, it’s taken a long time to build an audience of some sort and it’s been a slow process. I have no idea what “fairy dust” the bloggers who seemingly ‘make it’ overnight have. 🙂 That’s not the norm for most people. The best ‘strategy’ I’ve found is just being friendly, reading and commenting on other people’s blogs. Most people are polite and friendly enough to interact and respond to comments.

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi Rachel! I appreciate you visiting and commenting. I definitely agree that building an audience takes time, I am just curious as to how much time (I don’t expect you to have an answer). I’ve been blogging for about a year and a half, and very regularly since last July and I haven’t really seen my viewership increase much, maybe 10 more views per day. I’m trying to get better about tweeting other interesting posts, commenting and even sharing my own posts more. I am just struggling to find time to do it all, work outside the home, be a mom AND exercise.

      Thanks again for commenting!!!

  2. Kelly says:

    I wish I had some advice for your, but I am struggling with the exact same thing! Regular blogging has helped me a bit (by maybe 10 extra views lol), but I’m not gaining much in the way of followers or anything either. I just wanted you to know you are not alone in your frustrations.

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi Kelly – Thanks so much for visiting! I truly appreciate it. And while I’m not happy that you’re also struggling to get more views, it’s good to know that I’m not alone in my hunt for more followers.

  3. Uch, I hear your pain, I have the same trouble. My blog is a lifestyle blog and I feel like I’ve done everything to make it grow (comment on tons of other blogs, do weekly link-ups, promote posts across all social media at different times of day)…and nothing. I know part of my problem is I blog about all sorts of subjects (crafting, cooking, fashion, general life) and maybe I haven’t found my niche? I don’t know! I am sorry you are feeling the same way AND that I wrote this huge comment and don’t have any answers for you, but at least you’re not alone! Great blog, btw, I found you through the Pig and Dac Blogger’s Digest weekly link-up.

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hey Jess!! Don’t apologize for a huge comment – it excites me to have new visitors and for long comments. 😀 I’m right there with you, taking the time to link-up, share, tweet, comment and yet I still struggle. I won’t give up, I like writing too much, but it’s still frustrating.

  4. I’m a new blogger and I feel like I am obsessed with traffic and I will take a picture of something and just be sure it’s the pin that will be viral and then no… My traffic is good for a new blog, but I feel like the initial growth has hit a plateau. Hang in there! Have you tried a boosting group on facebook or Google +. I have a Google + community for Pinterest called Pin Buddies join us if you haven’t already. Also join a Stumble Upon group if you haven’t already. Feel free to email me we all need to “whine” occasionally. That’s why we have each other.

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi Jennifer! That is definitely not something I’ve tried yet… I’m going to search out your Google+ group now. Thank you for the lovely suggestion & for visiting!

  5. I haven’t been blogging for very long, but I can relate to your frustration. I do enjoy it, but it’s definitely more fun when you feel like people relate to what you’re writing. When you feel like you’ve made them laugh or look at life in a different way. I can’t say I have any advice at all to give, but I’m definitely interested in what has worked for others!

    • Jillian416 says:

      That’s a huge part of it! I love writing, and then having people relate or even dispute what I’m saying. It feels great knowing that I can engage people and get them involved. Thanks for visiting!!!

  6. Chastity says:

    Girlfriend, I feel you! (Do people still say that?) There are so many times that I feel like I too have written the ultimate post and no one notices it. It’s frustrating and I’m hoping that someday all of the time and effort I’ve put in pays off.

    I hope you have a wonderful week!

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hey Chastity! Thank you for visiting. People TOTALLY still say “I feel you!” Well…I do anyway. 🙂 All this effort and writing has to pay off sometime, right!?

  7. Hi Jillian! I hear you…I just started my blog, and I can see how growing it will be a journey. I just have to believe that if I continue posting quality content, people will continue to read it and its following will eventually grow. Or so I hope! In the meantime, I’m following your blog on My Yahoo! If you want to check mine out, it’s I can use more followers as well 🙂

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi Meredith! Thanks for the visit. For the most part growing your audience is a lot of fun. I love engaging and conversing with folks, but I’ve just hit a point where it would be nice to just have a large group of followers, yah know!?

  8. Lisa says:

    I can definitely relate. I’m just starting out, but I’m still in search of that one “thing” that I seem to be missing that will pull readers in. I love your post and your honesty. 🙂

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hiyah Lisa! If you discover what that “one” thing is, will you share with me?! 🙂 Then we can make it big together! Thanks for visiting. 🙂

  9. Karen G says:

    I love this post. It’s so honest. I started out blogging a couple months ago because I loved reading other people’s blogs so much, I thought hey that would be fun to do. Now I’ve realized that while it is fun it is SO MUCH WORK. haha. Like you said though, it’s enjoyable work. I am really having a great time with it and I’m hoping that that will be enough to keep me going and wanting to blog. I’ve enjoyed perusing through your old posts and I will definitely be coming back. Keep up the blogging!

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi Karen! Thank you for visiting. I’m so glad you started blogging, it is highly rewarding. I hope your readership grows and grows!! Good luck!

  10. Sheryl says:

    I read (homesteading) and (knitting) almost religiously. When someone comments on those blogs and leaves their blog address I sometimes go exploring by clicking on the links. I’d advise finding other blogs you love and commenting on them but leave a link back to your blog.
    Just as feedback, in terms of “momma” blogs, I tend to enjoy reading ones that talk about time juggling….how the momma’s get everything done and do their hobby and go cool places with their families. Featuring your fun stuff and local places might generate hits from just Google searches. Maybe?
    Billboard on the 290? ;P

    • Jillian416 says:

      Those are some really awesome ideas, Sheryl! I had not thought of talking about more of the local activities that we do. I’ll definitely start incorporating things like that. Thank you for visiting!

  11. Ugh! I hear ya! Part of me wants 10,000 page views/day and to be a professional blogger, and the other part of me is happy being able to choose what to write about and when to write about it and not caring about the page views. I try to do 2 posts/month designed to drive traffic (a giveaway or a recipe) and the others are just my ramblings. If you find the secret let me know!

    • Jillian416 says:

      Howdy Janice! I LOVE the idea of doing giveaways to drive traffic. That’s not something I’ve done more than once or twice, and I think I need to incorporate it more frequently. Thank you for the suggestion!

  12. Erika says:

    Hmm, I can see how this would be frustrating.

    I think it helps to think of blogging as weight loss or dating. They are both things that seem to elude people when they really want them and tend to come easily when the focus is something else.

    For example, with weight loss, if you focus on the scale or use that as a direct measurement, you miss all of the other benefits that come with it. Sometimes you can work hard and your body can reap the benefits, but it doesn’t show up in the number. If you find other tools for measuring your health journey, it can be more rewarding. Or if you just let go of it being about an end point but more about the process, that helps too.

    Or, with dating: it seems like if you feel you really NEED a significant other, that’s when you can’t find the right person. But if you become happier with yourself and your life, it sort of all falls into place.

    So, back to blogging. Growth isn’t the issue. It’s the spark, the light, the fire that comes across in the writing and what you’re sharing. People need to understand your passion aside from needing an audience or the growth. And not just anyone and everyone, but YOUR people. People who are just like you or similar to you who find a little bit of a “home” in your words.

    I think the thing to do is to let go of the growth thing and just focus on making this space a space you really love, or continue to do that. Continue writing about what interests you and your passions.

    And if that’s not a satisfying enough answer, then I’d say: think about WHY you want to grow your blog. Are you looking for validation from an audience? What would an audience give you that you’re not getting now?

    Hope this helps. Not saying I’m a huge expert or anything in this, but I find that satisfaction in blogging comes from so much more than just numbers. 🙂

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi Erika! I’m really so honored that you came and visited my blog AND commented. Not, only commented, but provided some really great advice. I’ve always read that becoming popular with blogging is a long process, so I knew it would take time, but I always assumed that after a year things would grow, and I’m over 1.5 years old, so my frustration is coming from there. I think I need to heed your advice and allow myself to feel content in blogging alone, and not worry about the numbers.

      I also wanted to mention how much I love your writing. You have such a wonderful way with words!! Thank you for visiting!

      • Erika says:

        Oh you’re making me blush! 🙂 And it’s my pleasure!

        And for some people, they can start blogging and take off right away, but for others, it’s a long process of experimentation and discovery. Even the girls at A Beautiful Mess had a very long process, with their blog only hitting it really big in the last few years! 🙂

        • Jillian416 says:

          🙂 You deserve it! There have been lots of times when your positivity (through the Everyday Happy course) has lifted me up, and I appreciate that. It’s been a rough couple of months for my family and I.

          Anyhow – you’re absolutely right, so many of the blogs that I follow and that inspire me have been at it for a long time. Not all, but most. So even though, I’ve been going for 1.5 yrs, that’s nothing compared to so many others. Thank you for being an unbiased party and giving me a different perspective. It’s appreciated!

    • Bronwyn Joy says:

      I hear you! It’s hard not to compare yourself to other people in the blogging world.

      I really like Erika’s advice – I’ve found using other metrics (than page views) is a very good way to get perspective. You have to be clear to yourself on your goals and use a measure that reflects those goals.

      • Jillian416 says:

        Hello! You’re right! I think I need to find something other than google analytics to gauge my blogs success (or non-success). I check my stats constantly and I am driving myself crazy! Now to figure out what I’ll use to measure my goals. Thank you for visiting!

  13. Cyndii says:

    Well it’s good to know we are not alone. Maybe we should start a support group! No answers here either and I’ve been blogging for about 4 yrs. quite honestly thinking about taking it down. The only thing I would say is that there are TONS of blogs, just like mine. Over saturation possibly.

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi Cyndi! I don’t think you should take your blog down. If you enjoy writing and keeping up with it, don’t quit!! Keep going! 🙂 Thanks for visiting!

  14. From my perspective, it’s mostly luck. Sure, there are people out there who have lots of followers, but you may notice that a lot of them don’t really blog. They post giveaways, linkups, and other gimmicks to get people to follow them. Yet they don’t really have much to say themselves.

    On the other hand, there are tons of great bloggers out there who have passion, write well, and are fun to read. But as you say, there are so many of them, the only way to distinguish ourselves is to stand out… and have a four-leaf clover.

    For me, I find it a challenge because my blog isn’t a mommy blog. Yet when I join up to linky parties, the bulk of the participants are posting recipes, crafts, DIY projects, none of which I do. So getting traffic through those linky parties isn’t my magic bullet. I’m still looking though.

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi-yah Suzanne! I disagree on it being mostly luck – there are definitely those who post a lot of giveaways or other gimmicks, but the blogs that inspire me are not those. They’re blogs like Healthy Tipping Point, Carrots ~n~ Cake, and The Nectar Collective (I could go on and on). They’re all people who have put a lot of work in and deserve the status they’ve achieved. I just wish I knew exactly what it is they did that was their turning point to “make it big.”

      I think you will eventually find your niche. I’ve heard that you usually discover it after blogging for awhile. Good luck and thank you for commenting!

  15. Silvie Armas says:

    I’m a fairly new blogger and I too have read list upon list as you say. It is a long process but in the mean time I’m having lots of fun having my little place to vent my frustrations. Hahaha Hang in there, as so will I. 🙂 Thanks for joining us on the TGIF Hop.

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi Silvie! It is definitely worth it to stick it out for the long haul. I get so much pleasure from writing! I’m not going anywhere, that’s for sure. Thanks for visiting and commenting!

  16. Madaline says:

    I’m a new blog – so I haven’t reached this frustration yet… I’m sure I will! So I’m super happy to read tips! Found you via the Weekday Mixer (ps this is a great post!!)

  17. I know it can be frustrating. My first blog I had for four years. I pretty much only wrote for myself. I got a lot of hits but not many followers. I kind of gave up on it for a while. Not just because of it not being popular but I really just needed a break. I just started a new blog last month and I’m really excited for how it is going. It’s changed a lot since I left my last blog 3 years ago. And that blog is now on lock down so no one can read it but me. I mostly write for me but it is always nice to get comments. I am putting more time and energy into this blog. From how it looks to really taking the time to comment on others blogs and using social media. It is a slow process but if you hang in there I’m sure you will see your blog growing.

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi-yah Christina! I’m definitely hanging in there, I enjoy writing too much to go anywhere. 🙂 I hope you’re right, I hope my stats continue to climb, but in the meantime, I’ll enjoy the fans and followers I have. Thanks for visiting!

  18. Erlene says:

    I feel you. I’m trying to grow my blog too and it can get a little disappointing when you don’t see that huge traffic increase, but I love it and I enjoy doing it so I keep going. Hopefully the traffic will come in time. Until then, I keep plugging away. I will say though, someoone with a lot of followers must’ve posted a link to one of my posts on FB and in one day I got 4,000+ visits, which is huge for me. It made me think that maybe I should be spending more time on there since I’ve been totally neglecting that social media platform.

    • Jillian416 says:

      Oh my gosh!! How awesome! 4,000 visits is astronomical, and something you should totally be proud of. FB is definitely touch and go, some days I get a lot of hits from them, and others practically nothing. I don’t think there’s a full proof way (unfortunately).

  19. I can definitely relate. I’ve been blogging for just over a year and growth has happened but it is sloooow. I just recently had to take a big step back because the effort I was putting into “growing” was more than I could keep up with. I agree to just write what your passions are and find lots of pinterest group boards to join. That is what drives the most traffic for me. Good luck!

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hey Kimberly! That is exactly what I don’t want to happen, I don’t want to feel like I’m spending more time online, w/ my blog, than I am with my son. I’m trying very hard to keep a healthy balance. Thank you for the tip about joining pinterest group boards, I will look into those!!

      Thanks for visiting!

  20. Lara says:

    The one thing that stuck out to me in your post is that you said what you write for yourself you do privately, and what you write here you want seen. I might try putting a little more of you and your soul into what you are writing here, and stop trying to write what you think others want to read.

    (This is my first time visiting your blog as I came in from a link up party, so I’m only going off of what you wrote there…)

    Anyway, I think that’s a mistake many bloggers make, myself included. We want to make money, we love doing it, and so sometimes we are not entirely authentic in our writing. Unfortunately, readers can smell inauthenticity or trying too hard or whatever you want to call it a mile away. Put your soul into it and write for YOU and YOU only. I think you may be surprised at the result.

    Again, I hope you’ll forgive me if this comment is too straightforward. 🙂

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi Lara! I definitely don’t think you were too straightforward, I think that was great feedback. And you’re points make a lot of sense, something I hadn’t taken into consideration.

      I definitely think that I’m going to start taking some time and blogging more of what I’m feeling in my heart, versus just the “fluff.”

      Thanks for visiting and thank you for the feedback!!

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  24. Kimberlee says:

    This is a great post – enjoyed reading it and all the comments, too. I have also only been blogging for about a year. I started it because so many of my friends and family members thought I should have a website to share what I make and things I do. I don’t have any great advice for you either and I too wonder how these people get such a following and make over $1000.00 per month. I just figure if I take it slow and learn what I can when I can eventually it will fall into place. I really don’t have more than a couple hours or maybe 4 at the most per day to spend on blogging. My family comes first and taking care of my home. I enjoy writing and taking the photos, too. If anything it is helping me learn more about my camera and photography – which still needs improvement.

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hey Kimberlee – You and I seem to have a similar mindset. Family first, ALWAYS – which only leaves a few short hours at night, after Emmett’s in bed to blog. Thankfully my husband doesn’t mind my working at night, bc he’s usually focused on something in regards to building his own creative skills (design, etc). But I will never sacrifice family time for my blog, in fact… the more family time I have, the more I have to write about. So I’ll just keep on, keepin’ on. 🙂 Thank you for visiting!

  25. I know what you mean, I have written some posts that were my best work and then nothing, they were my most unpopular post ever! Haha Sometimes the ones that I don’t put my all into are the most popular. I am stumped! But, like you I love blogging so even if the heartfelt posts continue to not draw a lot of attention I will keep doing them…but I def want to continue to build my numbers!

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hey there, Heather! Thanks for visiting!

      I agree, so long as I enjoy writing, this blog will continue…even w/o the numbers. 🙂

  26. I hear you, I have been trying to boost my traffic for ages. I am thinking of converting to WordPress soon, I have heard that can make a real difference….

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi Mandy! My very first blog, years ago, was on blogger. I liked it because of the ease of use, but when I started this one I knew I wanted a self-hosted wordpress blog. I wanted to have ultimate control over my content. I can’t speak to whether moving from one platform to another will increase your stats or not, but I do know that I love wordpress, and would never move from it. Thanks so much for visiting!

  27. I really empathize with you, Jillian, and I know many bloggers would agree with you. I used to worry about numbers too but now I just blog on my terms and if the numbers are good one week then great and if they are bad another then so be it. Don’t get too caught up with it and just keep blogging because you love it. Having said that, though, there is nothing wrong with a bit of self-promotion and the best way to do that is Pinterest! Get your blog verified if you haven’t done that already and pin your own posts. Ask people with group boards if you can join theirs and pin your projects (and other’s projects as well) to those group boards. Pinterest really is the key to getting those numbers up I think!

    Thanks so much for sharing your post at the Say G’day Saturday link up. I’m pinning it now!

    Best wishes,
    Natasha in Oz

    • Jillian416 says:

      Howdy Natasha! That is something I haven’t done yet, get verified on Pinterest. That will be a goal of mine for this weekend. Thank you so much for the suggestion and for visiting!

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  30. I could have written this myself! It’s even becoming a really big issue in our house. My husband is trying really hard to be supportive of my desire to write and make some extra income from blogging, but I’ve been at it – hard – for a long time now. Some days I’m just so overwhelmed at the amount of effort I’m putting into it to have my stats say the same and keep receiving those stupid emails from companies asking me to write about them for free. I feel like my effort and time and talent are worth more than advertising for free some dead beat company. I’m extremely frustrated too, as you can tell. I’m going to read through your comments and see what advice other people may be giving you. I know there isn’t any miracle blogging juice out there, but I’m kind of at the end of my rope with it. I would never stop blogging because I love it so much, but some days I spend more time staring at a screen than my kid and I just can’t justify that for much longer. I may have to throw my hands in the are and back away from it soon. I’m not asking you to follow me or anything, but if you have some time to look around, I would love your feedback and I would love to do the same. I have no real life friends that blog, so when I ask them they’re like ‘Your writing is great! It’s all great! We love it.’ But that doesn’t help me much. Lol.

    – Andrea

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hey Andrea! I’ll gladly look around your blog. I definitely don’t think you should quit blogging if you enjoy it. That definitely isn’t the answer. Maybe posting less, or maybe even on a specific schedule will help you stay motivated?

      Thank you for visiting & commenting!

  31. Ramon says:

    Hi Jillian
    My name is Ramon and I write, I love this post and all the advice all this nice ladies have to offer, up until recently I didn’t even knew what a linky party was, I just started writing my blog because a friend suggested I did, I only have 64 followers but I love the feeling I get every time I get a coment from any of them, I don’t know if I will ever have a huge audience but I honestly enjoy every time I hit the publish button.

    I hope you find an easy way to make it happen, and if you do be kind enough to share.
    Have a blessed day.

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi-yah, Ramon! Hitting publish is extremely exciting! It’s always the moment, when you’ll find out whether your post will hit it big or not. Thank you for visiting!

  32. Ranjani says:

    My blog is about 1 year old and I could feel each and every word of your post. I am trying to boost my traffic too. I am sure you might have tried these already but just few suggestions that made a little difference to me-

    1. Link parties Link Parties Link Parties – Linking as well as CO HOSTING/HOSTING a party. I am recently guest hosting TurnItUpTuesday and it does make some difference to my traffic.
    2. Pinterest Collaboration/group boards
    3. Sharing your posts on various Google plus communities.

    Thanks for sharing this post with TurnItUpTuesday. Hugs!

  33. Ok…so…this is my first time here, I followed your link on a link party. Girl, I hear your pain. I am in the same boat as you, and from reading the comments before mine, you and I are not alone. I WISH I had some wonderful words of wisdom to give you, but I don’t, and I am sorry about that. I am like you, I have read and tried everything. I work a full time, and take care of my husband, autistic son and our home, blogging will never be a full time job for me,but, that does not mean I don’t want to grow. I struggle finding the “perfect” balance in my blogging journey. I have found some growth with link parties, and recently started my own link party, but even that has not helped much. I think the key is to find your blogging voice, keeping what you publish real, and people will find you relate able , they will be all”Hey..I could be her”. I think it is important to create a blogging circle, people who have the same goals and struggles as you, you ban together and support each other, comment on each others blog post, share them on social media, pin them, shout from the internet rooftop “GO READ THIS BLOG POST”, you in turn, do that for them. And, I think the most important thing is PERSPECTIVE. So, 14 people read your blog today, disappointing, yes, end of the world, probably not. Oh, I could go on and on, but will not bore you with my rambling. I wish you great growth, and much success…now I am off to stalk, I mean follow you all over social media!

    • Jillian416 says:

      Howdy Kim! I’m really glad you found me too. I’ll be off to visit you in all the social media circles shortly. Plus I’m going to check out your linky!! Thanks for stopping by, I’m glad to hear I’m not alone and that others feel my pain.

  34. Rachel says:

    I am more of a craft/DIY blogger but I know this frustration well. I have only been blogging about 6 months and promoting since February but I spend hours upon hours while working full time. Part of what frustrates me is that everyone seems to be so hush, hush about real numbers. I never have any idea if what I am doing is good or not. In my short time blogging, I have learned a few things. First, SEO is, I think, a necessary evil. But more than SEO, writing about topics that have low competition and high demand. I use google’s adwords to look for phrases or titles. But it may take a loooooong time for even the best SEO posts to take off (if ever). Secondly, I love followers, but I don’t expect a high number of loyal followers. Our lives are just too darn busy and there is so much competition. And lastly, I have a love/hate relationship with Pinterest right now. I could have the most pinnable picture in the world, and it will get pinned 6 times. Why? Because, in search results, pinterest prioritizes those with the most repins, not the newest or trending. So our awesome posts are being ignored in favor of something a year old. Frustrating!

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hey Rachel! I hadn’t even thought about looking at Google adwords for topic ideas. That is really very brilliant! Thank you for sharing that. I also wasn’t aware that was how Pinterest was prioritizing things. That really sucks, but I feel better knowing that… Now I don’t think that my work just sucks, that Pinterest may have something to do with it. Thanks for visiting!

  35. Mrs. AOK says:

    I know exactly how you feel! I too struggle with this same problem. It stinks when you know you have a wonderfully fluid and grammatically correct post, yet there isn’t as much love. I think sometimes to receive traffic you must give traffic, and sometimes I suck at that. I cannot say daily I’m commenting on other blogs, as much as I wish I could, I don’t. However, I am a commentator, and when it’s not reciprocated I’m a little taken aback.
    I’ve read many bloggy resources that say- get a comment, give a comment- is proper blog etiquette.
    I dunno ;-/
    Wishing you all the success!

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi Mrs. AOK! I honestly had not heard that you should get a comment, give a comment. But honestly, it makes a lot of sense. I think I’ll try adopting that into what I do after someone comments on my blog. Thank you for sharing & for stopping by!

  36. April says:

    I feel ya! I’m at almost the two year mark and my husband and I were having the same conversation yesterday. I agree with Erika. I started blogging to bring some income to my Stay at Home mother role, just a little money that would allow me to go shopping or do things with the kids. I realized I have to use the blogging opportunity to vent, and hon my writing, my voice and look for related writing opportunities yesterday.

    I could drive myself crazy looking at those numbers, but in many ways, although I don’t have nearly as many views as some people, I have gotten better promoting and trying find submissions for writing.

    I hope you find what works for you! Thanks for linking up with Turn it Up Tuesday!

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi April! You’re absolutely right. I need to remember that my blog is a place for me to share my life, experiences, etc…Not purely for the numbers. Thank you for visiting!

  37. Amy Thomson says:

    Hey girl – I so hear you on this, and was going to write something so similar. I am writing about mental illness on my blog, which I honestly think scares some people away. I just feel called to do it, and I will keep writing as long as I feel that way. I don’t have a lot of traffic, don’t ever get a lot of comments, but I hope my blog touches someone’s heart, even if I never know about it.

    Keep writing, sharing your story is never in vain.


    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi Amy! I think blogging about mental illness is a great topic, especially if it effects you so closely. I blog a lot about binge eating disorder (which I suffer from), and I find that those are some of my most popular posts. Just stick with it!! Thank you for visiting!

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  43. Momfever says:

    I’m right there with you! I too, have tried everything and used all the tips. With no result what so ever.

    Unfortunately I have yet to come out on the other side. I’m still struggling…

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi! I think the thing that keeps me motivated to keep writing, is how much I actually enjoy doing it. My head is constantly spinning with new content that I can’t wait to write. I just wish more people were seeing my posts.

  44. Hi, Jillian! Nice to meet you,and thank you for sharing your thoughts…

    I’ve got nothing to add, as I’m reading all the same tips you are, and I have not gone viral yet, either. What ultimately drives my blogging is the mere fact that I get to do it, you know? Yeah, I’d be lying if I didn’t admit to wanting a huge audience, but by the same token, I love what I write and that is why I do it. Furthermore, a watched pot never boils, and I often tell myself that the minute I stop caring is the minute I’ll see progress. Who knows if this is true. I’ve got to pacify myself somehow. lol.

    I also remind myself of this: There is enough — enough content, enough readers, enough ideas, enough blogs — for all of us to have a piece of the pie.

    As long as you love what you’re writing, to hell what anyone else thinks.

    Stopping by from #TurnItUpTuesday. <3

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hi Courtney! You’re absolutely right, there is enough content, readers, ideas and blogs for everyone…it’s just being patient while we wait for our piece. 😉 Thank you for visiting, and good luck with your lovely blog. 🙂

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  46. Allison says:

    I’m obsessed with tracking my stats and I’m with you when you say it’s frustrating. 900 likes on bloglovin’ who are you lady?! I mean I just broke 100 and I’ve been at this whole blogging thing for a year! I’d say who you sponsor (if you do that) and giveaways have helped me tremendously in gaining readers. Hang in there!

    • Jillian416 says:

      Allison! I am SO obsessed with stats. Some days I wish that stats didn’t exist bc my life would be that much easier. Yah know?? 900 likes, on Bloglovin’? Not me! I have about 180, and I’m nearing 2 years. It is steadily growing, though…so I can’t complain. Thank you for visiting!

  47. I think most bloggers feel the same way. But the truth is, it’s a crowded field out there. I think we need to be realistic about our expectations and our definition of success shouldn’t be based solely on the numbers. The way I see it, quality is more important than quantity — especially for those of us who work full time outside the home and can’t devote countless hours to our blogs.

    • Jillian416 says:

      Hey Michelle! I absolutely agree!! I don’t want to post and post and post but have it all lacking. It is much more important to have something people want to read. Thanks for stopping by!

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